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Weston Parker's avatar

That was a good study.

I think the female force seeks the "no space between" but the male seeks to always preserve a sliver of separation and it is this tension that creates the attraction. This is a theory of mine, similar to how a small drop of black paint can make a can of white paint appear whiter.

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faye boam's avatar

I didn’t know that about paint! how very interesting… something to ruminate on this morning.

As a woman who love intense and deep closeness… but also requires a lot of space, I agree with you. I am thinking of Jung’s central idea of the tension of opposites which, creates the desire for union; without the space there would be no desire.

I am also thinking of the tantric creation story in which shiva is just an open field of blissful consciousness for eons — then, one day he feels the heartbeat of kama, the god of desire, and summons his eternal lover, Shakti.

Shakti proceeds to stir up fire, water, earth, and air in a magic cauldron with Shiva inside of it, and finally reveals the final element, is the cauldron itself —space…

The last thing i am reminded of is this idea that we’re always keeping secrets from ourselves. That what makes it so interesting, I think. I was reading a book called SoulMates recently and the author wrote about how we are always in some way seeking to connect with the mystery lover through the actual lover. I thought, wow, I’ve never heard anything more accurate.

I think the idea is integrating those forces within ourselves so we’re not trying to merge into a singular blob with the other but instead can hod them loosely and appreciate and love them (and ourselves) as we are

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Weston Parker's avatar

Yeah, the united blob concept is what a teenager seeks but soon enough we want autonomy

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faye boam's avatar

ha! I wanted autonomy much later than sooner 🙃

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Jonny Drury's avatar

The breaking and the healing of heart. ♥️

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faye boam's avatar

Over and over ♾️

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