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Sandeep Kumar Verma's avatar

Excellent. It requires a high level of intelligence, honesty and imagination to experience present moment on our own. This can become a person’s first step in spiritual journey from sex to super-consciousness.

https://joshuto.substack.com/p/sex-is-the-seed-live-is-the-flower-and-compassion-is-the-fragrance-59fd02e155ae?utm_campaign=post&showWelcomeOnShare=false

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faye boam's avatar

Sex to super consciousness. That’s a useful phrase. I love imagining consciousness expanding into-through the vast inner space and rippling into the infinite.

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Sandeep Kumar Verma's avatar

This is actually real journey. The feeling of present moment without any thoughts and ego that one experiences during orgasm is just a glimpse of the ecstasy one experiences 24×7 after entering the kingdom of god. But this journey requires honesty and authenticity of ultimate level.

I have travelled this journey and upon entering the kingdom of god sharing from my experiences what helped me. You may give it a sincere try.

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Sandeep Kumar Verma's avatar

https://oshofriends.com/future/3791

Our body experienced in present in totality can become door to consciousness. Here Osho talks about it. Whole book is worth reading as I see we are really moving towards his dream world.

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Anyeri's avatar

This reminds me of last week when I went out for a walk near the forest and felt horny so I sat on a tree branch and put my fingers in my pussy omgggg i had one of the best explosive orgasms in awhileeeee! def 10/10 recommend!

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faye boam's avatar

Yesssss omg orgasmic forest magic YUM

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BrainFudge's avatar

Your post is a strong reminder to practice presence in a world that pushes everything to be fast and perfect.

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faye boam's avatar

Ugh yes… slow and messy every time

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Weston Parker's avatar

I always learn something and it is fairly remarkable how different the sexes are. Being a easily deliverer of seeds makes our approach significantly different. Only when we (males) become committed to a long term relationship does the classic “male” approach and rapid exit change. That’s how I see it. When males are in the short term recreational mode, we depart the exact moment when the screwing we’re getting is no longer worth the screwing we’re getting.

I always wonder what causes someone to shift away from short term recreational sex/relationship to the long term one. In my case, I got sick of screwing weird women but when I started I enjoyed it. At some point I began to ask myself, “Are any of these people I want to have my children and grow old with?

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faye boam's avatar

Ha! You got sick of screwing weird women 😅I love hearing your perspective on this Wes. Makes me feel hopeful. I’m definitely in “ready for a husband” mode now…

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Weston Parker's avatar

I think that’s what happens when you finally get weary of screwing juvenile men.

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faye boam's avatar

You can say that again. I have to laugh that the oldest men I’ve screwed were in fact the most juvenile 😅

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Weston Parker's avatar

I imagine you’ll bump into him, maybe sometime when you least expect it.

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Sophie In Wonderland's avatar

This was honestly gorgeous. Like… it made me want to close everything and just breathe, feel, be. You described it all with so much intimacy and depth — I felt like I could actually slow down just reading it. Thank you for this reminder.

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faye boam's avatar

what a pleasure to hear about your experience Sophie. thank you 💜💜 so glad it helped you slow down

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Adrian's avatar

Such a deep truth

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Austin Muhs's avatar

Celibacy would be a better option…. Losing sexual energy with just one party hurts the immune system and brain function over time. When there are two parties there is at least an exchange of yin and yang. Nourishing both the man and woman.

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faye boam's avatar

I fundamentally disagree. Learning to cultivate and circulate your own sexual energy fills the well and builds capacity - as a matter of experience

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Austin Muhs's avatar

Yeah it’s all good. I think you would find the traditional Chinese medicine on the topic interesting. They have studied this for many years as you would imagine.

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faye boam's avatar

I am interested to know more, having spent a fair amount of time with Taoist practices. What doesn’t jive right is the presumption that erotic practice causes one to lose sexual energy… i understand that for men ejaculating is losing life force - but there are other ways to practice they don’t end in an expulsion of sexual energy but a circulation and concentration of it - orgasmic energy that grows and expands and remains within

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Austin Muhs's avatar

Kk when I’m not driving I’ll send ya some stuffs 😇👍

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faye boam's avatar

Looking forward to it, thanks Austin

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Student Of Life's avatar

And when you’re done, teach me how to do it. I promise I’m a good student

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The Recursivist's avatar

“As I once wrote in ‘Stop Fing Fboys,’ my own fingers are a metaphor for reclaiming agency…”

No.

They’re not.

They’re fingers.

And you’re ten retweets away from corporate partnership with a vibrator startup called “My Own Damn Self.”

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Weston Parker's avatar

I always learn something is

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