Transformation through Love, Eros, and Purposeful Action
What do you want, and what are you gonna do about it?
Lots of us desire transformation. Lots of us also don’t know where to start, so I’m going to do my best to break it down.
Transformation begins with awareness and acceptance of where we are. Once we’re present to that, we get to decide where we want to go and who we want to become.
To better make these decisions, let’s begin with an understanding that human beings are innately creative. Carl Jung said, “the world will ask you who you are, and if you do not know, the world will tell you.” We arrived on this earth as blank slates. We arrived with bodies full of potential and the drive and curiosity to create and become who we desire to be.
To become who we desire requires self inquiry. A willingness to investigate far and wide and to the deepest darkest corners of our minds, bodies, spirits.
Desire - Eros - is the driving force of our creative nature. However; in most of us, desire is neither directed in a purposeful way, nor embodied. Rather, we become disconnected from our desire - our hunger to explore, create, become, share, love, be seen in our authentic expression, as we are conditioned by cultures, environments, families, friends, lovers, to live by sets of rules dictating who we are “supposed” to be.
Our desire never went anywhere, but our action is disconnected from it. With tyrannical minds, we disembody our spirits. From this place, we may transform, but not in a useful direction. Not in the direction we want.
We don’t throw our desire away because we want to; we do it out of fear and shame. We, being human, fear rejection and the loss of love. And without proper education, support, and experience in what it is to be an evolving, expanding human, we wind up abiding by the rules we were given, however useless they are. We do our best to be “good” and squelch our desire so we can “fit in.”
We may get along fine for a while, convincing ourselves this is just how it has to be, and that maybe we can be happy with it. Eventually, though, we reach a tipping point. We can only take so much tension before it must release itself. Desire oozes out of our subconscious and thrusts us into dysfunctional relationships with everything we touch. Food, friends, work, social media, sex, love…
Living in a constant state of dis-ease, we become diseased, physically, mentally, spiritually. The whole system, interconnected as it is, crumbles. We are shells of who we know wants to burst out of us. It is heartbreaking. Yet mostly, rather than feel our hearts breaking, we resist. The pain, though, is still there, and we experience it as tension across dimensions - unexplained chronic pain, illness, and nervous systems that just can’t handle another ounce of stress.
The story leading to this point of our system breaking is different for every human, yet at the root of the issue of this painful disconnection is the truth that, for whatever reason, we resist being and becoming who we are.
I say this not to make you feel like a victim in a repressed society - rather the opposite. I say this to illuminate a way out of victimhood and give you a glimpse into your power.
Power begins with the self; we need to reconnect with the self.
To do that, we begin with Love and Eros.
Love accepts you as you are now.
Love is your root.
Love holds you in your everything.
“Be,” she beckons.
Eros, knowing Love has you here, in the present, asks a series of questions:
What do you desire?
Why? What is your purpose?
What are you going to DO about it? How are you going to BECOME it?
The key is PURPOSEFUL ACTION rooted in love.
Without purposeful action, we remain directionless victims to our desires. With purposeful action, we become the directors of our journeys. Through our doing, we begin the process of embodying our fire, our passion, our erotic, expansive nature.
To take responsibility for the direction of your journey is to choose to become the artist of your life. To become an artist is a messy process, and very human. There is no wrong expression, even the messiest.
Choosing this messy journey is the greatest gift you can give yourself, and everyone you touch.
If you are willing to dig in, open up, face what you fear, challenge what you think is stopping you; if you are willing to be free…
You get to reclaim your power.
You get to love, share, express, create the way you yearn to
You get to live as an expression of your love, your passion, your spirit, your heat, your Eros
You get to be truly alive, connected, embodied in your awareness.
You get to bring your desire alive.
You get to live an erotic life.
Oh, yes. An erotic life. Stick around for more on that…
Wow it's like we're all wizards who forgot our spells, trying to remember our powers. Love the idea of starting with self-awareness and acceptance. And yes, purposefully directing our desires can turn life into an epic adventure. Thanks for breaking it down so beautifully.